Music of the day

Here's a new jam from SD's own Vokab Kompany that I'm really feelin right now

https://soundcloud.com/vokabkompany/kill-you-with-my-sex

Other profile pic no-no's

• Pics where you look high or are getting high
  

• Pics where you are making the same face every time.

•   Pics of you with someone else's kid.

• Pics where I can't tell which one is you and which one is your friend. 

• Pics of you making inappropriate gestures towards the camera or other people.

 

• Main profile pics of booze bottles or anything really that's not a pic of you.

•  Pics of you eating food.
  

   

• Pics of you looking like you're laying in bed next to me.

•  Multiple Pics of just your dog.
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• Pics your friends took when you just woke up. 
  

• “It's cool that you're a surfer bra, but I can't tell what you look like in those far away pics of you shredding your board.”
  

Profile pictures

So I figured I would start this off with the most important part of your profile.... YOUR PICTURES!!

Yes guys, believe it or not this is the most essential part of meeting a girl on POF and a lot of you are having some issues with this concept. I get it, I'm sure there are plenty of you who are maybe a little emberrassed that you've decided to try the online dating thing, so you probably haven't consulted anyone on the content of your profile. Well fear not, I'm here to help with 10 staple rules to follow when deciding which pictures to feature on POF.

1. If you can't see your face in the picture, don't put it on your profile
   When women are browsing the 100's of profile options they have, they want to get as much of an idea as to how you look as they possibly can. Far away pictures of you doing some kind of outdoor activity is not going to get a girl to decide if she wants to see you out in the real world.
2. Any pic of you with your shirt off in any capacity other then being on the beach is just ridiculous.
   I don't need to see your muscles (or lack thereof), I don't need to see your tats, I don't need a mirror self portrait of how you look half naked. If I want to see the goods,  you'll most likely catch that vibe on our first date.
3. Your main profile pic has to be the best picture you have.
   When girls are going through the tons of messages they get each day (I have 600 new messages from the last two weeks in my inbox right now) they tend to sometimes only look at that first thumbnail pic. If that's not a least of your face you can bet a girl is going to immediately erase your message and move on to the next profile of the “meet me” section. Sometimes this one picture is the only shot you have with a girl you're trying to talk to. 
4. Blurry pics tell me NOTHING about you!!
   In a blurry pic I can barley tell what you're doing, let alone what you look like! No one even  posts blurry pictures to facebook. There is not reason to ever post a pic that is blurry. It's really the most pointless pic you can add to your profile. 
5. If all your pictures are of you and other people, and you don't write any kind of caption pointing yourself out, how am I supposed to know it's you?
   I'm not a mind reader. I'm not going to know by reading your "about me" section that you are the guy in the picture with the blue hat on. It's nice to see that you have friends and a social life, but come on!! Every pic you post can not be of you and other people.
6. Having pictures of you on your profile with pretty girls that are not clearly labeled as a member of your family are a turn off to other girls, espeically if they are intimidatingly pretty.
   It makes a girl feel like she has to live up to this imaginary standard imposed by this chick on the other side of the screen. Label the girls in your pics and probably stick to only posting pictures of you and women you're related to.
7. If your place is dirty, don't take pictures of you with your dirty laundry in the background.
   Girls analyze every part of your pictures and if you are a messy guy, showing that through your profile pictures is probably not the best way to go.
8. We all like to party, but if all of your pictures are of you at Burning Man then I'm probably not going to take you seriously enough to meet you.
   First off, everyone looks like a circus freak on the playa, so how am I going to know tie-die gaucho pants and a fuzzy vest isn't your every day attire? Second, it just makes it look like you take nothing more seriously then a week long rager in the desert. Lastly, you're so dirty from all the drug doing and non-showering that you probably don't want your very first impression to be of you looking homeless.
9. If it was taken freshman year of college... and you're now 33, don't add it to your profile.
   A lot happens to guys over the years and sometimes a few years makes all the difference. I want to meet the now you, not your former self. I also don't have a time machine to go back and meet you 12 years ago, so posting pics of you from your past is not helping anyone.
10. Funny pics are great for Snapchating your friends, or even maybe for posting on your Facebook, but POF is no place for these “funny pictures.”
    You in a tu-tu, or dressed as a tampon for Halloween, or humping the back of some form of an animal is just not really turning me on. We don't teven hink these things are even that funny when we're dating you, so why would that get us to message you back? It's great to date a guy with a sense of humor (probably a must for most girls), but those pictures don't really give off that impression, instead they say “I'm kind of a douche.”

A Fisheye View of Dating

          Alright guys... I see you all have these POF profiles and it seems like you want to meet women, but every time the subject comes up over that first date, you all say that you either "just made the thing" or that you "didn't really even take much time when you were putting your profile together cause you just didn't care." Really!?! Are you trying to meet girls with the possibility of someday getting laid or not? Girls are into doing their research, and POF is nothing but that. That one page of information, even that one main profile pic, is the only way a girl is going to decide whether she is going to talk to you or not. It's a pretty simple concept, but it seems a hard one for most of you guys to grasp. 

       That's what this blog is... a guide into the world of POF dating from a woman's point of view, and an honest view at that. I understand what men want and need, and I also know what women are looking for. Every week these little tips and tricks are guaranteed to get you more face to face time with real girls on POF. Happy fishing!!